“Failure is not falling down, but refusing to get up.” – Chinese Proverb
I’ll Be Honest
I used to think that success was a result of being really gifted. I’m talking about being so gifted that you could out sing even the best singers, out-think the world’s most brilliant thinkers, and outrun the fastest runners. I would imagine people who were so gifted that they were in a league of their own. Uncomparable to anything or anyone we’ve ever seen.
Sounds like a fairy tale right? Because those kinds of people don’t exist! It was only after studying the principles of success, examining the lives of high achievers, and investing in and developing myself that I began to see a pattern.
Here’s The Truth
People who succeed with goal-setting are visionaries. They lead and do things that feel uncomfortable because they believe in the mission they are creating. They understand that if they don’t do the work it won’t get done and so they do these three things:
- They take FULL responsibility for their life and the results they create.
- They understand their purpose and create goals that are aligned with it.
- They are willing to pay a price and are the first to take action on an idea.
What Does It Mean To Take Full Responsibility For Your Life?
This means you are responsible for the outcome and results in your life today, like right now. Think about every area of your life that inspires you and you feel happy and satisfied with it. Then think about the areas that you feel uncomfortable or embarrassed about and hope no one finds out.
What is the difference between the areas that are working and the areas that aren’t? How is your character different? Are you more disciplined in doing one thing over the other? Do you feel more confident and skilled in one area? What is causing your success?
Here’s What I’ve Noticed
“The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That’s the day we truly grow up.”- John Maxwell
People who choose not to take full responsibility for their life end up playing the victim. They come up with stories like I did that sound something like this:
- “My parents didn’t teach me what I needed to know to be successful”
- “The system is set up against me. It’s impossible for me to win”
- “No one in my family has ever done anything like this before so who am I to be the first?”
- “I don’t know anyone that can help me”
- “Life is hard and it’s only getting harder”
- “I’m stuck and there is no way out”
- “My goals are too big I don’t know where to start”
- “This dream is impossible. I need to be more practical about what is realistic for me”
- “It’s not the right time for me to get started”
Have you ever watched someone sit around and beg, complain, and cry about being hungry, but never actually get up take a look in the fridge, and make something to eat? We see it all the time right? Whether it’s with a family member, friends complaining over the phone about how much life sucks, or watching it play out in a movie.
It’s so easy for us to whine and complain but never take the necessary action to resolve the problem and this is something high achievers don’t waste their time doing. Listen to me very closely. I don’t want you to miss this.
You are the only person creating the results in your life. If you want something different you have to do something different. It’s like this
- No matter how much your mom loves you she can not force you to complete school (and she can’t do the work for you).
- No matter how much your friends wanna see you succeed they can’t develop your character for you.
- No one can force you to go to work every day
- No one can do your push up for you.
You Have To Do the Work
If you want to live a purpose-inspired life, pursuing goals that cause you to grow as a person and allow you to step into your purpose and have impact in your community and steady income you have to accept 100% responsibility for everything that you are producing. This includes your current results, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health and finances, the state of your finances, current income, feelings and emotions, ways your express yourself or lack thereof, your level of understanding, and pretty much every area of your life!
I could go on forever! Does this sound familiar? If it does don’t worry. I used to believe ALL of this and it kept me in a habit loop of overthinking, self-doubt, fear, and inaction so by the end of this I’ll show you how to get get out of this.
One thing people who have been able to do some of the extra-ordinary things you dream about know is that you are the only person responsible for the results in your life and the quality of your life. So if you want to improve your circumstances you have to invest in and improve the person who is creating the circumstance that you are experiencing. Do you know who that person is? YOU.
This is the power of personal responsibility! If you don’t like something you have the power to change it. Not your parents, spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend, co-worker, or anyone else the onus is on you boo so stop playing the victim. Stop giving your power away expecting someone to come and do the work for you.
No one will build your dream business and help you attract your ideal clients. You have to do that. No one will write your New York Times best selling book. You have to commit, sit down and get to writing it yourself. No one is coming to increase your influence, help you market your online digital products, and take you to your dream life of steady income and plenty of time freedom. My friend, you gon have to do that.
So How Do I Take Personal Responsibility?
Decide What You Want Then Commit To Creating It
People that take responsibility for their lives decide on what they want and commit to the process. As you read this I want you to consider these questions:
- What do you want to be true about your life within the next year?
- Where do you want to go within the next year?
- Who do you want to become within the next year?
- How much income do you want to bring in within the next year?
- How much weight do you want to lose within the next year?
- What kind of friends will you have within the next year?
- Will you still be in debt within the next 5 years?
- What do you want to have within the next 5 years?
- What will your kids be doing within the next 5 years?
- What do you want to do?
- What do you want to accomplish?
- What do you want to experience during your lifetime?
Decide what success looks like to you. After you’ve decided, create a simple step-by-step action plan with your ultimate, dream goal in mind. Consider the steps you have to take to get to that result. Write every little detail including the amount of time you need to spend doing each activity. Once this is complete blast off! Start moving towards your goal! When you start moving towards your target it will become clearer, and any obstacles and distractions will fade into the background. You’ll be able to:
- Better define the results you want
- Learn things that can’t be learned from studying or hearing about the subject
- Get personal feedback on how to improve
Here’s a goal-getter cheat sheet to help you follow through!
Pay The Price
Behind every great achievement is a story of training, practice, sacrifice, discipline, and personal development. The willingness to do what’s required helps you overcome every obstacle you’ll face. These obstacles are not a sign that you should run back to your comfort zone and give up on your goal. Man, no!! Obstacles are check points confirming that you’re heading in the right direction and that you’re being stretched! “Pain is only temporary, the benefits last forever.”– Jack Canfield
I believe that you can fulfill any passion that’s been burning on your heart no matter how many times you’ve tried and failed. Begin implementing the principles I’ve shared and you will 100% start getting results.
If you’d like additional support by having me walk you through a proven goal crushing strategy and help you to create a plan that’ll maximize your results, Let’s talk.
Until next time, Xoxo
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