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I know it’s Christmas, right? Most of us are excited to be spending quality time with amazing people and building new Christmas memories. However, some of us will be seeing people who are very opinionated and more on the negative side. They have a way of draining your good vibes so how do you handle people like this?! Comment below.
This my friend, is not true. The biggest challenge that I have after being around critical, negative people and environments is cleaning up the mental after-math and moving past the self-doubt they instill. I’m sure these people probably have good intentions (in most cases) but when you’re trying to figure out your personal life, who you are as a person, and what you want to do with your life, their opinions and sometimes manipulative suggestions are counter-productive. Here’s what I do to protect myself before and after being in a toxic environment.
1. Self-Reflection
This popular series of question is worth serious consideration. If you were the only person on earth who would you be? What would you be doing? Where would you live? and what kind of mentality would you have? When I soberly answer questions like this it empties my mind of external influences and I’m able to rediscover myself and my values placing me in a better position to plan my future.
We have to mentally end the conversation. Stop replaying their opinions and expectations of you in your mind. Don’t fall into the trap of doubting and criticizing yourself, instead focus on your perspective of who you want to be and what you want your life to look like in the next few years. Make your internal voice louder than their external pressure(s). Simply put, believe in yourself.
Personal Commitment
I believe that we owe it to ourselves to experiment and live the life that we choose. With that being said I commit to not allowing external pressures like people’s opinion or cultural stigma’s to dissuade me from living a completely satisfying, full life of trial and error.
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4 Comments
I agree with each and every word. It was very nice to read!
Thanks girl! I appreciate you taking the time to read it. Xoxo!
I'm so proud of you girl. You are an amazing young woman who seems to be on the road to bigger and better things.
Love the way you have learned how to prioritize without allowing external pressures to overwhelm you. You are an encouragement to other mothers out there.
Keep on blogging. God Bless.
Thank you! I'm inspired by all the strong, independent women I'm surrounded by, like you. Xoxo. Happy New Year!