Nelson Mandela said, “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Can I ask you something? How often do you feel fear? Maybe you said, “a few times a day, or more than you’d like.” That’s cool. Thanks for answering honestly!
Can I ask you something else? When you feel fear, how often do you allow that emotion to determine the choices you make?
Here is an example:
You might have a really cool dream of starting an online business, but this nagging voice of fear keeps pushing it’s ugly head up saying, “Well, if you start a business what happens if you don’t get any clients? Without clients, you have no sales and without sales, you don’t have money. No money equals failure so what are you going to do?”
After considering this train of thought for a while you begin to panic because truthfully, you’ve never done this before! Now thoughts like, ” I don’t know what I’m doing, I’m a failure, there is no point in starting a business” and all kinds of lies (fear-based ideas) begin to fill your mind and you make a decision to do nothing.
How many times has this happened to YOU!? Haha, well today let’s address it! I want to talk about the 3 fears that you NEED to let go of if you want to move your life forward this year and become all you were destined to be. Hit play and let’s chat!
1. fear of being judged
Let’s be honest, everyone wants to be liked! That’s right, we all (including me) want to be understood, have a safe place to be ourselves, and be accepted just as we are. If you said “no” you are lying to yourself! Lol!
The fear of being judged shows up in our lives as a mask we wear. We hide our real self behind this mask because if we are honest, we don’t want to be rejected, labeled, or criticized for being who we are. We want to protect ourselves from people’s insensitive, negative, or downright rude opinions and so we walk around using our mask as a shield.
But what if I told you there was absolutely no need for you to wear this anymore. Would you believe me? Because here’s the truth. You are already loved and accepted as you are right now! And here’s another truth. Whether you wear a mask or not some people will still choose to judge, label, and criticize you so is the “problem” really YOU or is it the person who is choosing to judge and misunderstand you?
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Let me help you. People who chose to criticize others only do this because they do it to themself. They are not happy with themself and so they see and treat others in their world as they do themself. So baby, it’s not personal! People who always have something negative to say about you has nothing to do with you, your worth, or the value you bring. It is not a reflection of you at all! It’s a reflection of their brokenness! So don’t let someone who doesn’t know who they are lead you into thinking that you are less than amazing because my friend, you are all that in a bag of chips and then some! Okay!? Good! *wink*
2. fear of failure
This kills dreams before they even get started. Taryn Rose said, “fear regret more than failure.” Before you talk yourself out of doing something that you know will take your life or business to the next level consider the consequences! What are you ultimately letting go of and saying “no” to when you say “yes” to fear? What kind of limitations are you placing on yourself when you give into a fear-based idea? Who are you becoming when you allow yourself to be restricted by fear?
These are all of the questions that I ask myself when I feel fear trying to creep in and lead me astray. We all know that fear is false evidence appearing real, but how do we work through it? What can we use to counter this false evidence? I’m going to share with you the only thing that I know that absolutely works 100% against fear. Ready for it?! The answer is…love!
I want you to understand that no matter how many times you fall you can get back up because you’re loved and accepted just as you are. Understand that growth happens in stages and you are a work in progress so as long as you keep working on yourself you will continue to make progress! Accept that you are valuable and you have something the world is looking for!
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Not having all of the steps figured out is not a reason to hold yourself back from getting started. Not having the right connections or knowing the right people is not a reason to delay your purpose. Not understanding everything there is to know within your industry is not a reason to label yourself as unqualified. You have something to offer right where you are and the honest truth is, the people you are here to serve don’t need you to know everything is there to know about your industry. All they are looking for is someone who is a few steps ahead of them! So go on! Share your expertise because all you have is exactly what someone else needs!